The consent envelope

I’m writing about consent as an envelope for various reasons. 1. In terms of sessions or discreet ‘scenes’ it’s a good idea to follow the rule of not including anything in a session that hasn’t been negotiated beforehand. 2. For power exchange, chosen power imbalance relationships and playing with consensual non-consent, first agree what is …

Where to begin?: a kink reading list

As promised I’m going to set out a few books I feel are worthwhile and that I’ve personally gained something from reading. This is not an academically based list, on the whole it is more about practical doing and the negotiation there of. With all materials I find it is worthwhile to think about the …

The Spring that comes in Autumn. (Kinky Weather)

At last, I’m emerging from my self imposed sabatical from sessions and online play. Having finished a large writing project and staged some very different flavored public events, I’m back! With a twist. In the coming months as Autumn leaves fall and the night draws in, my interests turn toward a more specific niche of …

Refocusing the way I work

Life has been super busy of late, to the extent where as a Professional Dominant I have only been able to focus on existing relationships. This is likely to be the case for some time. As I DO wish to continue to explore in this sensual, curious and bizarre realm, I am redefining and refocusing …

SESTA, ‘anti trafficking’ law: It’s dangerous!

Vile things afoot with the passing of SESTA. A piece of legislation touted as protection for victims of trafficking, that in reality makes life WAY harder and more dangerous for many sexworkers. #saveusfromoursaviours What the bill means in real terms, is that many sources of safe online advertising, means of communication, and forums for vetting …

Higher and Higher (maybe)

I have realised and it has been noted by some of you that I have not blogged in a LONG time!! So true. In the last blog, I wrote I had just spend some time in the snowy wilds of Brandenburg immersed in writing and being annoyed half to death by mouthy artist types who …

The wilds of Berlin.

I feel like I’ve been away for AGES, London started to seem like a distant place, maybe this was due to the intensity of my time in Berlin, two weeks can seem like forever: 1. Flying, cheery service, hosts who made food. 2. Slept late, made leisurely preparation, beat up a couple of friends for …

Ego, Blues and BDSM.

January blues, can’t say I have them as a creative project bridged the new year and made the transition time an exciting blur. Traditionally I can be kinda down on January. I’m off to Berlin (surprise) at the end of this month, so will be away for the first two weeks of February, attending some …

Kink Festival And A Berlin Skyline

10 days in Berlin can hold a lot, like an over-stuffed piece of hand luggage, once unpacked the amount of things you managed to fit in there can be astonishing. So it was with My recent trip to Berlin. Once upon a time I used to go to Berlin purely for time out: it’s a …

Talking dirty

I’m swearing to myself a bit as I begin the process of upgrading the look of my website and engaging with the mysteries of multi page scrolling. I suppose I could get someone else to do it, but I like keeping my brain tuned in to how technology is changing and in turn how technology …